Wednesday, 12 October 2016

Why I'm So Bad At Twitter Chats

Twitter chats are a pretty big thing in the blogging community.  Twitter is a great way to drive traffic to your blog, and the chats are a way for bloggers to interact with each other, grow their following and make friends.  They're awesome, and I acknowledge that, but here's the thing: I suck at them.
How can I suck at what is essentially just conversation?  In real life I'm a "people person" and have always done relatively well in social situations once I get past my initial fear of rejection (hint for anyone with similar confidence issues - vodka seems to do it for me, but is only recommended for emergencies).  On the internet many people seem to find that the anxieties that come with social interaction tend to be diminished, but for me it's very much the opposite.  In the real world I can put a brave face on, wear bright lipstick, default to sarcastic mode or do a shot; on the internet that's not really an option.  I'm not very funny at all in spontaneous written conversation; in real life I come out with whatever I'm thinking and it seems to make people laugh, but I really get away with murder sometimes.  On the internet, the slightly random things I come out with come across as weird, because the written word is more filtered, and I'm just not.  I don't have the usual filter most people do on the internet.  Where others will take a moment to think about what to reply to someone, I just blurt it out, fingers flying across the keyboard, without really considering what I'm saying.  Minus my completely inoffensive and innocent-seeming demeanour and I can actually come across as rude. 

You can imagine how this issue doesn't really meld very well with high speed Twitter chats.  Instead of having charming conversations with my fellow bloggers, I end up cracking jokes people don't get, and I worry about getting branded as a bit of a weirdo.  Sometimes I think it might have already happened, for those few who know I exist.  As a result I've been staying away from Twitter chats, but I decided it's time to suck it up and join in some more.  I may try and think a bit more before typing, but in all honesty, people are always going to either like me or not.  Seriously though, I swear I'm better in person, even if my friends might disagree.

Now I just have to actually remember when all the Twitter chats start...


Hopefully you've enjoyed this post, and if so keep an eye out as this is part of my Blogtober series where I post every day.  Check out my other posts from this month and see whether I actually manage to even think of 31 topics!


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  1. Hey Beth, I am definitely in the camp where I feel less socially anxious online than in real life, but I completely understand where you're coming from! My advice for Twitter chats is to join in with a smaller chat where there are less people buzzing around and it's less crazy! Also you don't have to answer every single question immediately or at all! I tend to strike up conversations with people who write similar answers to me and try to keep those going, it's often nicer just to interact with a couple of people than trying to speak to everyone in the chat! Don't put pressure on yourself, you'll do absolutely fine! ❤️❤️❤️

    Abbey ✨ www.abbeylouisarose.co.uk

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